the irony of conflicting philosophies

the two things i enjoy most about going to church are playing music and preaching. it is highly ironic that these two elements have little value in my definition of 'ministry' and how i see the kingdom of God.

1. music is one of many mediums in which we can connect with God. 'worship' music in american churches has in large part become a hyper-feminine exaggeration of the real deal; we have placed far too much emphasis on what we feel during a corporate singing experience and judge how good it was by how many goose bumps we were able to raise. our lyrics often reflect our feelings and stray from focusing on who God is and what he has done. and our music leading has become highly egocentric: we love our rock stars, even in church. worship is for the most part how we live our lives 24/7 and what we do for a few minutes during a 'worship' service is only a small part of our relationship with our God.
2. preaching is also egocentric: lets all gather around the wise one and listen to what he or she has to say. there is little or no interaction and the pressure is on the preacher to deliver a good message each week so the preacher spends too much time during the week whipping up another barn burner and spends less time with people. aren't we supposed to be coming together and all of making a contribution? but that would not be feasible in a large group... but when did large groups become important?
3. i appreciate that liturgical churches make the sacrament of communion the central focus: who Christ is and what he has done for us and is doing for us today...
   

questions about 'going to church' model

i have a lot of questions about the 'going to church' model

1. are we so busy that we sacrifice meaningful relationships?
2. do we make it too complicated? this program, that program, this model of doing church, etc. we have 'worship leader' magazine to help us discover and learn all the ins and outs of singing songs together. hmmmmm, really?
3. are we doing kids a favor my pulling them away from their parents and other mature adults?
4. do kids ever get included in the larger group of believers when we age-segregate them?
5. do we expect everyone to enjoy singing or use music as the only form of connecting with God? are there not many other ways to connect with God?
6. how much effort and money do we put into events that never result in people connecting in relationships? how many events do we put on that simply draw other church people?
7. do we intentionally help people connect relationally?
8. why do we focus on sunday morning so much?
9. how can a 'church' serve the community more?